I too am disabled and on SSDI – I was fortunate to have a good benefit package at my former employment so I get a little help. I am glad that you are pushing issues and forcing the nation to recognize fatherhood. Right now my ex and I have joint physical and legal custody of the children. Unfortunately for me is that I may have to move (because of my disability) so I will really need to make sure that my rights as a father are given to me.
My abuse from my ex was only once in awhile abuse but the emotional abuse and constant berating me caused undo problems which further complicated my disability. I wish that there had been a shelter long ago because I would have fled with my two girls. It is probably to late to help me but if there is some way I can help please feel free to contact me.